𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱

You practice many rules designed to stop the world from happening.

• “I don’t ever want to get yelled at in a meeting again.”
• “That’s the last time I get embarrassed by being unprepared.”
• “I’m not going to get rejected like that next time.”

You’re choosing the Control Cycle to try to stop future events from happening.

It doesn’t work.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗺

It doesn’t work because it doesn’t solve the real problem.

The real problem is that you feel blocked from being able to have what you want. That block hides from your conscious mind. So you identify advice or strategy or practice to keep the bad thing from happening 𝗻𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲.

It feels “more productive” or “safer” to make a quick evaluation of the supposed problem and latch on to the first “solution” that emerges from your store of advice and practices.

Then you can focus your attention on compliance with the “solution,” which frees you for a time from the anxiety and upset.

You feel better in the moment, because “you have a plan.”

Then the bad thing happens again. Because you didn’t change the assumptions and beliefs blocking you from solving for what you actually want.

𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗖𝘆𝗰𝗹𝗲

The alternative to the Control Cycle is the Power Cycle.

Rather than fixing the anxiety, you commit to looking for the real problem.

The real problem is the conflict between what you consciously want and the beliefs and/or assumptions that are blocking you from pursuing your want.

Uncovering those beliefs requires asking questions and Looking.

Once you can see your conflicting wants with Clarity, your anxiety releases. You’re clear on what you want the most.

That sense of Clarity gives you Trust to pursue the outcome you desire most.

𝗔𝗹𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗛𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴

This is already happening for you. Recall one of the times you overcame a challenging situation. You were anxious and stressed, and you stayed with it until you were able to let go of the limiting beliefs that were keeping you stuck.

That “tough conversation” that turned out to be “no big deal?” You were wrestling with a belief that you “couldn’t” have that conversation, and once you let that belief go, things turned out great.

Project you thought was “too big” for you, and you did a great job? You froze because you believed you weren’t “big enough.” When you let that go, you kicked butt.

𝗙𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗼𝗺, 𝗖𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿

Understanding these Cycles is at the heart of practicing Responsibility and taking 100% ownership of your life.

Practicing Responsibility gives you the tools and skills to be able to actively choose the Power Cycle ever more often, and to have the freedom, choice, and power that come with it.

You’re already doing this. I can help you do it more. Let’s talk about how.