Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
Do you resist committing to change? Instead of making specific goals, do you promise yourself you’ll “get better about going to the gym”? Or “speak up more in planning meetings”? Vague intentions are safe. They leave up to question what actually meets the standard, and that standard is negotiable. You can “meet” the standard when … Read more
You understand the power that values have in your life. They shape how you act, how you perceive the world. You live your values every day. They operate as filters on what you see as possibilities and actions. If you’re not happy with where you are or who you are, then what values are dominating? … Read more
What comes out of an orange when you squeeze it?
What comes out of you when you’re squeezed?
You are bigger than any problem that occurs in your life. There are a lot of problems that don’t feel that way. Problems that feel as big as the world, sometimes. How can you really be bigger than all that mess? What’s the real problem? You, like most humans, make space in your head for … Read more
So I didn’t have a plan. I did, as I stood there, start to get the seeds of what might, sometime, become a vague step generally in the direction of an intention. I may be stating that too strongly. Steven Brust, Issola How much of a plan do you have for your year? Month? Week? … Read more
Being Aware of the Fog This is a continuation of The Fog. It’s about those moments, where the anger, or fear, or stress descend like a fog. You’ve made an Intention to change, and reflected on what that change will be and how that change serves you positively. Now, let’s look at the next step. … Read more
You have those moments, where the anger, or fear, or stress descend like a fog. A fog made up of all of those emotions you’ve suppressed, pushed away, buried. And to avoid being overwhelmed by that stored-up intensity, you look for a way to cope. The first coping option is to Lay Blame. The cause … Read more
You have feelings; feelings of happiness, joy, contentment, exuberance, peace, love. Also fear, anxiety, stress, irritation, anger, resentment, tiredness, grief, isolation. Which of those groups did you welcome, and think positively of? Which of those groups did you dislike, and probably shame yourself about having? Feelings Simply Are “Feelings are neither right nor wrong, they … Read more
You’ve read tons of things about goals and Intention. There’s good reason for that – conscious Intention is a powerful force. Nothing gets done without Intention. And Yet What is the value of Intention that takes you away from what you really want? Or of Intentions that help you complete low-value things? You’ve probably had … Read more
Each decision we make, each action we take, is born out of an intention. – Sharon Salzberg You made many decisions this week. You took many actions. Each of those happened because of your Intentions. Many of them were conscious Intentions. Some of them happened due to Intentions you weren’t even aware of. Take time … Read more