Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
The part of you that didn’t like that feeling learned a lesson. You now look for anything that might be about to get you like that again, and unconsciously work to escape.
The truth is that hook you swallowed back then is harming you again and again now.
And there’s no truth behind the hook in the first place.
Many of your beliefs and habits are at best semi-conscious. You learned them at a time when you had little ability to be critical and discerning of the programming you received.
If you frequently say things are “bad,” what belief or beliefs are doing the judging?
Is that a belief that still serves you? Might there be another, more powerful one you could support instead?
This is a powerful exercise to uncover and challenge “legacy” beliefs, things you carry around simply because someone you couldn’t say no to stuck you with them.
You’ll find that, upon awareness and examination, some of your legacy beliefs still hold value for you and serve you well.
You’ll almost certainly find some that only work to limit your happiness and potential.
You stay stuck when you’re not fairly and clearly considering the two conflicting or competing wants. If you treat one of those wants as “morally bad” or “weak,” you’ll stay stuck because you’re not facing the belief that’s causing you pain.
How many times have you wished you were more patient? Or regretted acting in reaction to something, not response? First, congratulations on being human. You, like everyone, live in a world that rewards and reinforces speed and rapid action – provided it’s the “right” action. It can be amazing to see someone make a momentous … Read more
Freedom of choiceIs what you gotFreedom from choiceIs what you want — Devo Heard (or said) any of those recently? And plenty of things like them? That’s a lot of coping happening. That’s the sound of externalizing ownership of actions. Something or someone is “making” your choice for you. Always You always have the power … Read more
You are not You are “The point is that our true nature is not some ideal that we have to live up to. It’s who we are right now, and that’s what we can make friends with and celebrate.” — Pema Chödron Celebrate who you are right now. You can do this.
Five Minutes What would you do with an extra five minutes this week? What’s stopping you from making that five minutes for yourself on your calendar right now? What’s the most impactful thing you can do for yourself or someone else with 5 extra minutes? Five Days What would you do with an extra five … Read more
Ever think about leaving the place you’ve been working? End up singing The Clash in your head? “Should I stay or should I go now?” Sometimes you’ve left. Others, you’ve stayed. It can be hard to know what you want to do. There are benefits to knowing all the people, the products, the company. And … Read more
Is your Friday anticipation about fun, or about escaping? That could be a sign of feeling Obligation – “have to, don’t want to.” Learn how to turn that back into freedom, choice, and power.