Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
You are bigger than any problem that occurs in your life. There are a lot of problems that don’t feel that way. Problems that feel as big as the world, sometimes. How can you really be bigger than all that mess? What’s the real problem? You, like most humans, make space in your head for … Read more
Stop and think about it – what did you scold yourself for today? When did you tell yourself you were “wrong” or did that “badly”? “I’m such an idiot.” Why? What’s the payoff? It’s a coping strategy, it makes accepting the problem easier because you can tell yourself you’ll “do better next time.” Or perhaps … Read more
Think about a moment where someone in authority or power made a demand of you. That moment may have happened as recently as this morning. Maybe it was changing a project scope or direction, or “asking” for a chunk of work to get done by a seemingly arbitrary deadline. Or any one of countless demands … Read more
Have you ever played games that feel like you’re just “so close” to winning, and then the wrong thing happens? You get the wrong shaped blocks, or the wrong multiplier pops up, or some other ‘unlucky’ event. How about slot machines? Just seems like you’re almost about to win? These are both variables reward systems … Read more
Do you struggle at times to see more than one or two options for a decision? You’re likely stuck in a coping mental state, and it’s blocking your thinking. No? Filters Coping states of mind block your ability to consider any solution that doesn’t match that state. It’s a filter that you don’t realize is … Read more
You chose to read this. That’s a win. A Win is an Intention met. In that light, you’re winning all the time. It probably doesn’t feel like it. Don’t Celebrate You have been told things like “don’t rub it in” and “you shouldn’t celebrate” growing up. You’ve felt awkward and uncomfortable when being happy about … Read more
Ever think about leaving the place you’ve been working? End up singing The Clash in your head? “Should I stay or should I go now?” Sometimes you’ve left. Others, you’ve stayed. It can be hard to know what you want to do. There are benefits to knowing all the people, the products, the company. And … Read more
Is your Friday anticipation about fun, or about escaping? That could be a sign of feeling Obligation – “have to, don’t want to.” Learn how to turn that back into freedom, choice, and power.
“That was wrong” What percentage of your time do you spend thinking about what’s wrong with your performance? With you? Any number greater than zero is waste. This feels counterintuitive. Maybe even “wrong.” Consider – by the time you observe your performance it’s already happened. Therefore, it cannot be changed. The past is past. “Wronging” … Read more
First, let me say that all of the content, concepts, and practices only work when self-applied. I will not and cannot “make you” stop coping. As they say, only you can do the push-ups. You make the choice to cope or not, over and over, every time there’s an upset, problem, or issue in your … Read more