Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
Do you resist committing to change? Instead of making specific goals, do you promise yourself you’ll “get better about going to the gym”? Or “speak up more in planning meetings”? Vague intentions are safe. They leave up to question what actually meets the standard, and that standard is negotiable. You can “meet” the standard when … Read more
You stay stuck when you’re not fairly and clearly considering the two conflicting or competing wants. If you treat one of those wants as “morally bad” or “weak,” you’ll stay stuck because you’re not facing the belief that’s causing you pain.
You make very few all-or-nothing decisions, where everything is known and clear, and the choice is solely about value. Most decisions are gray, with incomplete information and luck involved. Yet, your decision making process is optimized for the black-and-white right-and-wrong type of decisions. Coin Flip You can drive defensively, never use your phone, and pay … Read more
Feeling needs adds stress to your life about things that are not essential to your existence. Turn that stress into power and peace by focusing on wants.