Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
Find yourself catastrophizing and coping when you are faced with an upset or problem? Find yourself looking at all the ways things can go wrong? Jump to the worst possible outcomes, regardless of how likely or unlikely they might be? How This Shows Up Screw up at work and immediately focus on being fired? Get … Read more
To who and what did you show Intention and attention last week? Think about your last week and what you spent your time on. For the causes, purposes, initiatives. projects – were any of them yours, or did they start with and belong to someone or something else? Pursuing a shared vision can be powerful. … Read more
There’s always an opportunity, a chance to “change your life,” a hot new thing. Many of those are exploiting your desire to have pain stop, or have a simple solution to all your problems. Focusing on “making things stop” is a coping strategy. Your brain and energy get anchored to thinking about the thing you … Read more
“Deciding that someone else’s face should be saved is an act of mistrust of the other person’s capacities.”
– Chris Argyris
If you could stop carrying one thing with you by January 1, what would it be? What burden, obligation, limiting belief, or anchor to the past would you put down? Many people feel stuck when asked this question. They jump to feeling a need to choose the “right” answer and spiral into discomfort and stress. … Read more
You carry a dangerous belief with you. One that impacts everything you do. You learned it growing up, at school, at home, around peers. With it, you take feel more anxious, risk less, and speak less. What is it? Wrong “Wrong” gets used too often. It’s a shorthand for “incorrect,” “mistake,” “moral failure.” Your brain … Read more
Do you resist committing to change? Instead of making specific goals, do you promise yourself you’ll “get better about going to the gym”? Or “speak up more in planning meetings”? Vague intentions are safe. They leave up to question what actually meets the standard, and that standard is negotiable. You can “meet” the standard when … Read more
You have short-term goals, like finishing “this report” or “this function” in the next day/week. It’s likely you have medium-term goals, like “finish this project” or “ship this feature.” Do you have a long-term goal for yourself? Where you want to be, what you want to be doing, who you’ve become? And have you done … Read more
Have you ever made time to recognize someone for their work, their learning, or an effort they made? That can be a powerful connection. People want to be seen for who they are and what they do. When you were recognizing someone else, did you also recognize yourself? For seeing, and for making the effort … Read more
What comes out of an orange when you squeeze it?
What comes out of you when you’re squeezed?