Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
There is no “You must be this tall to ride this ride” requirement for Responsibility. No apprenticeship. No “dues.” 10,000 hours not mandatory. You’ve already had many moments in your life where you’ve operated from the mental position of Responsibility. You may not have called it by that name. You faced a problem, you looked … Read more
Let go of the belief that you “must” be “nice.” Choose your response to the world from all of the options, not ones that meet some nebulous definition of “nice.”
You likely work for an organization or company that has “company values.” That is to say, somewhere on the company website is a set of high-minded words that the company asserts are what guide its actions and decision making. Do the decisions that get made demonstrate that? Is there harmony between the values as professed, … Read more
Big changes often come with “marching orders” and “because I said so.” Get past that to unlock important context.
You’ve probably told yourself you did something “wrong” already this week. Perhaps even today. It’s a word that gets used fairly often. Wrong is typically the opposite of “right,” sometimes the opposite of “correct” or “proper.” It’s “just” a word, so why talk about it? Meaning All words carry meaning beyond their dictionary definitions. “Wrong” … Read more
Five Minutes What would you do with an extra five minutes this week? What’s stopping you from making that five minutes for yourself on your calendar right now? What’s the most impactful thing you can do for yourself or someone else with 5 extra minutes? Five Days What would you do with an extra five … Read more
Do you struggle at times to see more than one or two options for a decision? You’re likely stuck in a coping mental state, and it’s blocking your thinking. No? Filters Coping states of mind block your ability to consider any solution that doesn’t match that state. It’s a filter that you don’t realize is … Read more
You make very few all-or-nothing decisions, where everything is known and clear, and the choice is solely about value. Most decisions are gray, with incomplete information and luck involved. Yet, your decision making process is optimized for the black-and-white right-and-wrong type of decisions. Coin Flip You can drive defensively, never use your phone, and pay … Read more
You make dozens if not hundreds of decisions daily. Thousands if you count all the subconscious ones like when to hit each key, how far to move your mouse, etc. Consider just the active, conscious choices. How many of those would you say are “big” in a day? A week? A year? How do you … Read more