Correcting Lenses
your correcting lenses invalidate others, and make them “incorrect.” That’s a terrible place to put another human being.
Coping
The Waste of “Wrong”
“That was wrong” What percentage of your time do you spend thinking about what’s wrong with your performance? With you? Any number greater than zero is waste. This feels counterintuitive. Maybe even “wrong.” Consider – by the time you observe your performance it’s already happened. Therefore, it cannot be changed. The past is past. “Wronging” … Read more
Sprinting Past Your Life
Are you constantly managing lists of things to be done? Marking one thing off just to add two or three more? Do your lists ever get shorter? Do you take any time to acknowledge and celebrate completing each item, or just sigh briefly and move on to the next one? Are you often “working” on … Read more
Sounds of Coping
What Coping Sounds Like Those and countless phrases like them are ways that we express choosing to cope. We adopt the notion that the problem is “out there” or “in here” and that it’s beyond our ability to do anything about other than live with it. Let’s look at each of these “Can you believe … Read more
Stop Coping!
First, let me say that all of the content, concepts, and practices only work when self-applied. I will not and cannot “make you” stop coping. As they say, only you can do the push-ups. You make the choice to cope or not, over and over, every time there’s an upset, problem, or issue in your … Read more