Coping

Bigger than Any Problem

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A chalkboard. On top, the word "Problem" with a red line through it. Underneath, the phrase "No Problem"

You are bigger than any problem that occurs in your life. There are a lot of problems that don’t feel that way. Problems that feel as big as the world, sometimes. How can you really be bigger than all that mess? What’s the real problem? You, like most humans, make space in your head for … Read more

What did you scold yourself for today?

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Two birds on a telephone line. The bird on the right is turned towards the bird on the left, and appears to be scolding the bird on the left.

Stop and think about it – what did you scold yourself for today? When did you tell yourself you were “wrong” or did that “badly”? “I’m such an idiot.” Why? What’s the payoff?  It’s a coping strategy, it makes accepting the problem easier because you can tell yourself you’ll “do better next time.” Or perhaps … Read more

Slots

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The screens of several slot machines, viewed at an angle from left to right.

Have you ever played games that feel like you’re just “so close” to winning, and then the wrong thing happens? You get the wrong shaped blocks, or the wrong multiplier pops up, or some other ‘unlucky’ event. How about slot machines? Just seems like you’re almost about to win? These are both variables reward systems … Read more

Consider

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Close up of an elderly gorilla, with an expression of thoughtfulness.

Do you become more capable by “should-ing” on yourself?

Does feeling like you’re constantly doing things you “have to” create the results you want?

Should I Stay or Should I Go

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A woman with long blonde hair wearing a blue and white floral print shirt and jeans, carrying a small suitcase. She stands on a gravel road that bisects a prairie, with the horizon in the distance.

Ever think about leaving the place you’ve been working? End up singing The Clash in your head? “Should I stay or should I go now?” Sometimes you’ve left. Others, you’ve stayed. It can be hard to know what you want to do. There are benefits to knowing all the people, the products, the company. And … Read more