Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
If you could stop carrying one thing with you by January 1, what would it be? What burden, obligation, limiting belief, or anchor to the past would you put down? Many people feel stuck when asked this question. They jump to feeling a need to choose the “right” answer and spiral into discomfort and stress. … Read more
If you frequently say things are “bad,” what belief or beliefs are doing the judging?
Is that a belief that still serves you? Might there be another, more powerful one you could support instead?
This is a powerful exercise to uncover and challenge “legacy” beliefs, things you carry around simply because someone you couldn’t say no to stuck you with them.
You’ll find that, upon awareness and examination, some of your legacy beliefs still hold value for you and serve you well.
You’ll almost certainly find some that only work to limit your happiness and potential.
Do you treat others in your life better than yourself? Treat yourself the way you treat those you love, turn off the inner critic.
Freedom of choiceIs what you gotFreedom from choiceIs what you want — Devo Heard (or said) any of those recently? And plenty of things like them? That’s a lot of coping happening. That’s the sound of externalizing ownership of actions. Something or someone is “making” your choice for you. Always You always have the power … Read more
Being Aware of the Fog This is a continuation of The Fog. It’s about those moments, where the anger, or fear, or stress descend like a fog. You’ve made an Intention to change, and reflected on what that change will be and how that change serves you positively. Now, let’s look at the next step. … Read more
You have those moments, where the anger, or fear, or stress descend like a fog. A fog made up of all of those emotions you’ve suppressed, pushed away, buried. And to avoid being overwhelmed by that stored-up intensity, you look for a way to cope. The first coping option is to Lay Blame. The cause … Read more
Stop and think about it – what did you scold yourself for today? When did you tell yourself you were “wrong” or did that “badly”? “I’m such an idiot.” Why? What’s the payoff? It’s a coping strategy, it makes accepting the problem easier because you can tell yourself you’ll “do better next time.” Or perhaps … Read more
Five Minutes What would you do with an extra five minutes this week? What’s stopping you from making that five minutes for yourself on your calendar right now? What’s the most impactful thing you can do for yourself or someone else with 5 extra minutes? Five Days What would you do with an extra five … Read more
“Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise so I am changing myself.”
— Rumi