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Awareness of Beliefs

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If you frequently say things are “bad,” what belief or beliefs are doing the judging?

Is that a belief that still serves you? Might there be another, more powerful one you could support instead?

This is a powerful exercise to uncover and challenge “legacy” beliefs, things you carry around simply because someone you couldn’t say no to stuck you with them.

You’ll find that, upon awareness and examination, some of your legacy beliefs still hold value for you and serve you well.

You’ll almost certainly find some that only work to limit your happiness and potential.

Freedom from Choice

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A POV image looking down towards someone's feet. They are standing on an asphalt surface, looking down at a three-headed arrow symbol. One head points left, one goes straight, and one points to the right.

Freedom of choiceIs what you gotFreedom from choiceIs what you want — Devo Heard (or said) any of those recently? And plenty of things like them? That’s a lot of coping happening. That’s the sound of externalizing ownership of actions. Something or someone is “making” your choice for you. Always You always have the power … Read more

What did you scold yourself for today?

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Two birds on a telephone line. The bird on the right is turned towards the bird on the left, and appears to be scolding the bird on the left.

Stop and think about it – what did you scold yourself for today? When did you tell yourself you were “wrong” or did that “badly”? “I’m such an idiot.” Why? What’s the payoff?  It’s a coping strategy, it makes accepting the problem easier because you can tell yourself you’ll “do better next time.” Or perhaps … Read more

Five

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Five Minutes What would you do with an extra five minutes this week? What’s stopping you from making that five minutes for yourself on your calendar right now? What’s the most impactful thing you can do for yourself or someone else with 5 extra minutes? Five Days What would you do with an extra five … Read more