Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
This is a continuation of The Fog and Fog Lights. Change is hard. You act the way you do based on deeply-held values and beliefs, and long-practiced habits. You’ve learned that certain actions “work” for you, so you repeat them. Values When you decide that you want something different in your life, it’s a sign … Read more
Being Aware of the Fog This is a continuation of The Fog. It’s about those moments, where the anger, or fear, or stress descend like a fog. You’ve made an Intention to change, and reflected on what that change will be and how that change serves you positively. Now, let’s look at the next step. … Read more
You have those moments, where the anger, or fear, or stress descend like a fog. A fog made up of all of those emotions you’ve suppressed, pushed away, buried. And to avoid being overwhelmed by that stored-up intensity, you look for a way to cope. The first coping option is to Lay Blame. The cause … Read more
You’ve probably told yourself you did something “wrong” already this week. Perhaps even today. It’s a word that gets used fairly often. Wrong is typically the opposite of “right,” sometimes the opposite of “correct” or “proper.” It’s “just” a word, so why talk about it? Meaning All words carry meaning beyond their dictionary definitions. “Wrong” … Read more
Do you struggle at times to see more than one or two options for a decision? You’re likely stuck in a coping mental state, and it’s blocking your thinking. No? Filters Coping states of mind block your ability to consider any solution that doesn’t match that state. It’s a filter that you don’t realize is … Read more
You chose to read this. That’s a win. A Win is an Intention met. In that light, you’re winning all the time. It probably doesn’t feel like it. Don’t Celebrate You have been told things like “don’t rub it in” and “you shouldn’t celebrate” growing up. You’ve felt awkward and uncomfortable when being happy about … Read more
Feeling needs adds stress to your life about things that are not essential to your existence. Turn that stress into power and peace by focusing on wants.
your correcting lenses invalidate others, and make them “incorrect.” That’s a terrible place to put another human being.
Are you constantly managing lists of things to be done? Marking one thing off just to add two or three more? Do your lists ever get shorter? Do you take any time to acknowledge and celebrate completing each item, or just sigh briefly and move on to the next one? Are you often “working” on … Read more
First, let me say that all of the content, concepts, and practices only work when self-applied. I will not and cannot “make you” stop coping. As they say, only you can do the push-ups. You make the choice to cope or not, over and over, every time there’s an upset, problem, or issue in your … Read more