Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
Find yourself catastrophizing and coping when you are faced with an upset or problem? Find yourself looking at all the ways things can go wrong? Jump to the worst possible outcomes, regardless of how likely or unlikely they might be? How This Shows Up Screw up at work and immediately focus on being fired? Get … Read more
There’s always an opportunity, a chance to “change your life,” a hot new thing. Many of those are exploiting your desire to have pain stop, or have a simple solution to all your problems. Focusing on “making things stop” is a coping strategy. Your brain and energy get anchored to thinking about the thing you … Read more
“Deciding that someone else’s face should be saved is an act of mistrust of the other person’s capacities.”
– Chris Argyris
If you could stop carrying one thing with you by January 1, what would it be? What burden, obligation, limiting belief, or anchor to the past would you put down? Many people feel stuck when asked this question. They jump to feeling a need to choose the “right” answer and spiral into discomfort and stress. … Read more
You carry a dangerous belief with you. One that impacts everything you do. You learned it growing up, at school, at home, around peers. With it, you take feel more anxious, risk less, and speak less. What is it? Wrong “Wrong” gets used too often. It’s a shorthand for “incorrect,” “mistake,” “moral failure.” Your brain … Read more
You get stuck trying to solve the past problem in the present, not the present problem in the now.
What if you practiced listening for “last time” and then reminded yourself that the moment you are in is new?
How would that impact your freedom, your choice?
Ask yourself what you truly wish that path to be. Turn off the “shoulds”, the “oughts”, the inner critic. Tune in to the quiet voice of your heart, and walk upon the way it desires.
You understand the power that values have in your life. They shape how you act, how you perceive the world. You live your values every day. They operate as filters on what you see as possibilities and actions. If you’re not happy with where you are or who you are, then what values are dominating? … Read more
