Self
Do you treat others in your life better than yourself? Treat yourself the way you treat those you love, turn off the inner critic.
Craig Dial
Freedom from Choice
Freedom of choiceIs what you gotFreedom from choiceIs what you want — Devo Heard (or said) any of those recently? And plenty of things like them? That’s a lot of coping happening. That’s the sound of externalizing ownership of actions. Something or someone is “making” your choice for you. Always You always have the power … Read more
Bigger than Any Problem
You are bigger than any problem that occurs in your life. There are a lot of problems that don’t feel that way. Problems that feel as big as the world, sometimes. How can you really be bigger than all that mess? What’s the real problem? You, like most humans, make space in your head for … Read more
Plans, Punches, Pressure, and Probes
So I didn’t have a plan. I did, as I stood there, start to get the seeds of what might, sometime, become a vague step generally in the direction of an intention. I may be stating that too strongly. Steven Brust, Issola How much of a plan do you have for your year? Month? Week? … Read more
Celebrate Your Light
Take time to celebrate your wins today. Do it right after you read this, if you can. If not, go to your calendar and block time for it today. Claim your wins – every Intention that you met. Celebrate your lighthouse moments, where you were conscious and deliberate about living your most important values. Noticing … Read more
A Lighthouse in the Fog
This is a continuation of The Fog and Fog Lights. Change is hard. You act the way you do based on deeply-held values and beliefs, and long-practiced habits. You’ve learned that certain actions “work” for you, so you repeat them. Values When you decide that you want something different in your life, it’s a sign … Read more
Fog Lights
Being Aware of the Fog This is a continuation of The Fog. It’s about those moments, where the anger, or fear, or stress descend like a fog. You’ve made an Intention to change, and reflected on what that change will be and how that change serves you positively. Now, let’s look at the next step. … Read more
The Fog
You have those moments, where the anger, or fear, or stress descend like a fog. A fog made up of all of those emotions you’ve suppressed, pushed away, buried. And to avoid being overwhelmed by that stored-up intensity, you look for a way to cope. The first coping option is to Lay Blame. The cause … Read more
What did you scold yourself for today?
Stop and think about it – what did you scold yourself for today? When did you tell yourself you were “wrong” or did that “badly”? “I’m such an idiot.” Why? What’s the payoff? It’s a coping strategy, it makes accepting the problem easier because you can tell yourself you’ll “do better next time.” Or perhaps … Read more
Feelings
You have feelings; feelings of happiness, joy, contentment, exuberance, peace, love. Also fear, anxiety, stress, irritation, anger, resentment, tiredness, grief, isolation. Which of those groups did you welcome, and think positively of? Which of those groups did you dislike, and probably shame yourself about having? Feelings Simply Are “Feelings are neither right nor wrong, they … Read more