Needs and Wants
Feeling needs adds stress to your life about things that are not essential to your existence. Turn that stress into power and peace by focusing on wants.
Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
Feeling needs adds stress to your life about things that are not essential to your existence. Turn that stress into power and peace by focusing on wants.
Ever think about leaving the place you’ve been working? End up singing The Clash in your head? “Should I stay or should I go now?” Sometimes you’ve left. Others, you’ve stayed. It can be hard to know what you want to do. There are benefits to knowing all the people, the products, the company. And … Read more
Is your Friday anticipation about fun, or about escaping? That could be a sign of feeling Obligation – “have to, don’t want to.” Learn how to turn that back into freedom, choice, and power.
your correcting lenses invalidate others, and make them “incorrect.” That’s a terrible place to put another human being.
“That was wrong” What percentage of your time do you spend thinking about what’s wrong with your performance? With you? Any number greater than zero is waste. This feels counterintuitive. Maybe even “wrong.” Consider – by the time you observe your performance it’s already happened. Therefore, it cannot be changed. The past is past. “Wronging” … Read more
Are you constantly managing lists of things to be done? Marking one thing off just to add two or three more? Do your lists ever get shorter? Do you take any time to acknowledge and celebrate completing each item, or just sigh briefly and move on to the next one? Are you often “working” on … Read more
Room 12A As a new ScrumMaster, I spent more time than I’d like to acknowledge stuck in room 12A, having the Monty Python argument sketch about what is and isn’t Scrum. “No it isn’t!” “Yes it is!” “No it isn’t!” (Do an online search for “Monty Python Argument Clinic sketch” if you’ve no idea what … Read more
A coach can help you break coping habits that limit you, and help you play the game you truly want to play.
You make decisions every day. Those decisions are based on your values and beliefs, some that are actively part of your thinking and some that lurk in your subconscious, waiting for a trigger to come out and try to seize control. Many of those subconscious beliefs were built on painful experiences, and keep you from … Read more
Agile is an orchid. “I read this article that shows that orchids are like a super flower, if you plant orchids, then all your plants grow twice as fast in half the time.” So spoke the CGO (Chief Garden Officer). Thus commenced a search for the best orchid. At least, that could be found for … Read more