Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
Craig Dial 
In the Agile community, many people have heard of the Prime Directive promulgated by Norm Kerth in his book Project Retrospectives: “Regardless of what we discover, we understand and truly believe that everyone did the best job they could, given what they knew at the time, their skills and abilities, the resources available, and the … Read more
You already hold knowledge, skill, and power. Grab an opportunity to take that to a new level.
The part of you that didn’t like that feeling learned a lesson. You now look for anything that might be about to get you like that again, and unconsciously work to escape.
The truth is that hook you swallowed back then is harming you again and again now.
And there’s no truth behind the hook in the first place.
Do you resist committing to change? Instead of making specific goals, do you promise yourself you’ll “get better about going to the gym”? Or “speak up more in planning meetings”? Vague intentions are safe. They leave up to question what actually meets the standard, and that standard is negotiable. You can “meet” the standard when … Read more
The voice you hear in your head saying “You should” isn’t yours.
It doesn’t come from you, it’s a replay of someone else’s message.
Which is why you’re such a jerk to yourself sometimes. Because that replay doesn’t care about you.
What if you practiced listening for “last time” and then reminded yourself that the moment you are in is new?
How would that impact your freedom, your choice?
Ask questions about what enables useful and beneficial things to happen, rather than putting the “bad” stuff under the microscope.
Ask yourself what you truly wish that path to be. Turn off the “shoulds”, the “oughts”, the inner critic. Tune in to the quiet voice of your heart, and walk upon the way it desires.
You likely work for an organization or company that has “company values.” That is to say, somewhere on the company website is a set of high-minded words that the company asserts are what guide its actions and decision making. Do the decisions that get made demonstrate that? Is there harmony between the values as professed, … Read more
You understand the power that values have in your life. They shape how you act, how you perceive the world. You live your values every day. They operate as filters on what you see as possibilities and actions. If you’re not happy with where you are or who you are, then what values are dominating? … Read more