Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
If you’re reading this, a lot has happened to make that possible. The sun continued to emit light, and the planet kept rotating. Untold millions of chemical reactions happened inside your body to keep you alive, nourish your heart and brain, and prompt you to wake up. Entire industries devoted to power generation and transmission … Read more
What is a problem? Something happens – you miss a light and have to wait. Your boss criticizes your work. Your partner complains that you never pick up your socks. A tree falls onto your apartment or house. What’s the problem? Is it the event, or the impact the event has on your reality? The … Read more
“Deciding that someone else’s face should be saved is an act of mistrust of the other person’s capacities.”
– Chris Argyris
Coping is protesting reality and being trapped in the past. The mental states described in The Responsibility Process® reveal this. Laying Blame is a protest that your current reality isn’t fair. Someone else did this, or caused it, or took your credit. They have to fix it because it didn’t turn out how you wanted … Read more
“There was a time in all of our lives when we desperately wanted what we have right the fuck now.” – Sarah Stockdale
Let go of the belief that you “must” be “nice.” Choose your response to the world from all of the options, not ones that meet some nebulous definition of “nice.”
If you’re like most human beings, you have a feeling of being “in control” and being “not in control.” Wake up, do your exercise routine, eat, shower, arrive at work on time? “In control.” Wake up late, skip workout and eating, maybe even the shower, arrive at work late? “Not in control.” Step outside and … Read more
If you could stop carrying one thing with you by January 1, what would it be? What burden, obligation, limiting belief, or anchor to the past would you put down? Many people feel stuck when asked this question. They jump to feeling a need to choose the “right” answer and spiral into discomfort and stress. … Read more
You carry a dangerous belief with you. One that impacts everything you do. You learned it growing up, at school, at home, around peers. With it, you take feel more anxious, risk less, and speak less. What is it? Wrong “Wrong” gets used too often. It’s a shorthand for “incorrect,” “mistake,” “moral failure.” Your brain … Read more