Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
You have those moments, where the anger, or fear, or stress descend like a fog. A fog made up of all of those emotions you’ve suppressed, pushed away, buried. And to avoid being overwhelmed by that stored-up intensity, you look for a way to cope. The first coping option is to Lay Blame. The cause … Read more
Stop and think about it – what did you scold yourself for today? When did you tell yourself you were “wrong” or did that “badly”? “I’m such an idiot.” Why? What’s the payoff? It’s a coping strategy, it makes accepting the problem easier because you can tell yourself you’ll “do better next time.” Or perhaps … Read more
You have feelings; feelings of happiness, joy, contentment, exuberance, peace, love. Also fear, anxiety, stress, irritation, anger, resentment, tiredness, grief, isolation. Which of those groups did you welcome, and think positively of? Which of those groups did you dislike, and probably shame yourself about having? Feelings Simply Are “Feelings are neither right nor wrong, they … Read more
You’ve read tons of things about goals and Intention. There’s good reason for that – conscious Intention is a powerful force. Nothing gets done without Intention. And Yet What is the value of Intention that takes you away from what you really want? Or of Intentions that help you complete low-value things? You’ve probably had … Read more
Think about a moment where someone in authority or power made a demand of you. That moment may have happened as recently as this morning. Maybe it was changing a project scope or direction, or “asking” for a chunk of work to get done by a seemingly arbitrary deadline. Or any one of countless demands … Read more
Each decision we make, each action we take, is born out of an intention. – Sharon Salzberg You made many decisions this week. You took many actions. Each of those happened because of your Intentions. Many of them were conscious Intentions. Some of them happened due to Intentions you weren’t even aware of. Take time … Read more
You are not You are “The point is that our true nature is not some ideal that we have to live up to. It’s who we are right now, and that’s what we can make friends with and celebrate.” — Pema Chödron Celebrate who you are right now. You can do this.
You’ve probably told yourself you did something “wrong” already this week. Perhaps even today. It’s a word that gets used fairly often. Wrong is typically the opposite of “right,” sometimes the opposite of “correct” or “proper.” It’s “just” a word, so why talk about it? Meaning All words carry meaning beyond their dictionary definitions. “Wrong” … Read more
Five Minutes What would you do with an extra five minutes this week? What’s stopping you from making that five minutes for yourself on your calendar right now? What’s the most impactful thing you can do for yourself or someone else with 5 extra minutes? Five Days What would you do with an extra five … Read more