Stop Coping, Start Growing and Thriving
Last week, I invited you to practice Claiming Wins deliberately. Remember, a Win is an Intention met. You had hundreds of Wins since I posted that. Maybe thousands. How many did you consciously acknowledge and claim? If you claimed those Wins, you felt energized, and I celebrate that! Yay! If you kept on going without … Read more
Have you ever played games that feel like you’re just “so close” to winning, and then the wrong thing happens? You get the wrong shaped blocks, or the wrong multiplier pops up, or some other ‘unlucky’ event. How about slot machines? Just seems like you’re almost about to win? These are both variables reward systems … Read more
Do you struggle at times to see more than one or two options for a decision? You’re likely stuck in a coping mental state, and it’s blocking your thinking. No? Filters Coping states of mind block your ability to consider any solution that doesn’t match that state. It’s a filter that you don’t realize is … Read more
You make very few all-or-nothing decisions, where everything is known and clear, and the choice is solely about value. Most decisions are gray, with incomplete information and luck involved. Yet, your decision making process is optimized for the black-and-white right-and-wrong type of decisions. Coin Flip You can drive defensively, never use your phone, and pay … Read more
You make dozens if not hundreds of decisions daily. Thousands if you count all the subconscious ones like when to hit each key, how far to move your mouse, etc. Consider just the active, conscious choices. How many of those would you say are “big” in a day? A week? A year? How do you … Read more
Do you become more capable by “should-ing” on yourself?
Does feeling like you’re constantly doing things you “have to” create the results you want?
You chose to read this. That’s a win. A Win is an Intention met. In that light, you’re winning all the time. It probably doesn’t feel like it. Don’t Celebrate You have been told things like “don’t rub it in” and “you shouldn’t celebrate” growing up. You’ve felt awkward and uncomfortable when being happy about … Read more
“Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise so I am changing myself.”
— Rumi
Feeling needs adds stress to your life about things that are not essential to your existence. Turn that stress into power and peace by focusing on wants.
Ever think about leaving the place you’ve been working? End up singing The Clash in your head? “Should I stay or should I go now?” Sometimes you’ve left. Others, you’ve stayed. It can be hard to know what you want to do. There are benefits to knowing all the people, the products, the company. And … Read more